The Love-Hate Relationship

We have a love-hate relationship with our bodies. And therefore, same goes to anything else in the world.

Having a body is both blessed and troubled state of affair. We know it’s decaying, on the way back to ground yet there is some part in this possession that is worth celebrating. We love this body, at least intellectually apart from our bulky tights, sagging breasts, fleshy tummy and short legs, but when are the times we get genuinely interested in the way it’s showing up right now?

My first Yoga Teacher used to teach “Look at the good”. It means, only dwell in good feelings and sensations at any given moment when attention has to be paid to the body. Years later, another wise teacher brought up a question to myself “when things become uncomfortable, do you hastily move to around to get into more pleasurable position? Do you freeze and numb out? Or “Do you tell yourself that pain is not going to stop you?”

The love-hate relationship with the body will manifest as often as it appears in life situation. There is some part of your body you favour like the superhuman strength you have in the arm, the six packs you are dying to preserve and your new straightened spine. On the other hand, your body changes will stare right at you, day by day, year by year, as you get stronger or weaker, get sick or heal, get injured and gradually get old.

And interestingly, for me, it takes four decades in my life to realise that through all these changes in life, whatever strategies you are using to deal with the bodies are likely to be at play in your life as well.

Life at work plays the same game. It’s an inevitable love-hate relationship with your work, “I like my work but my boss sucks”, “I hate my job but I need the money”, “I hate everyone in office but I need the job” etc. For many decades, the mainstream trend of Self-Esteem training, Personality Development, Self-Improvement, Motivation seminars have not changed the troubled workplace to a large sustainable extend.

Self-esteem training concerns itself with getting better, fixing oneself that produces results in one feeling better about oneself but it does not necessary lead to new actions or improved performance.

In order to fix the love-hate relationship at work, you need to fix the love-hate relationship you have with your body. When we learn through our bodies in an environment like in the CATalist program, over time we reap the benefits of changing the way of interacting with ourselves which lead to interacting positively with others. When we learn how to transform and change in the body, our ability to coordinate with others is increasing and we become more capable of shaping a future that takes care of our personal and professional concerns.

There has never been a time more urgent than now (seeing from the fact of rising pain bodies, rising stress and depression), when all the best technology has failed, to bring human value alive at work by cultivating the practices that sustain our biological wisdom. All around us we hear the call for concern in the declining quality at workplace, the moment has come, the choice is ours to place leaning in the context of returning value of humanity to the workforce.